Finding Familiar

20 June 2008

So… for me, one of the difficult parts of moving someplace new is getting used to things being different than I’m accustomed to.  For example, after four years of wonderful college goodness, it came as a real shock when I got a job, moved to San Francisco and realized I had to wear pants on a regular basis.  It still haunts me.  But I’ve adapted, and now some days I even wear pants on the weekend.  And sometimes I don’t.    

This seems to be true as I am adjusting to life in Badung, Bali (the adapting, not the pants). Luckily, the Executive Director of DINARI, Mr. Alit, has been kind enough to take me in and house me in his guest room, which has given me the pleasure of getting to know his family and joining them for meals and other daily activities.  I’ve also made some new friends at DINARI and have really enjoyed the chats with clients and the random conversations that I’ve had with people on the street. The hard part has been kicking my technology addictions and social dependencies.  

Although some of these habits I am happy to be rid of, like the Blackberry and internet addictions, I realize that there are many habits and patterns which I can’t wait to resume when I get back, nearly all of which involve socializing with friends and family.  These habits include post-game celebrations, sushi with Chuck, porch-talks, 3:00 AM heart-to-hearts, and email exchanges so glorious that you wish you could read them again for the first time.  

So while I’m away from some of these social interactions, I’ve been thinking a lot about what has been making me feel the most like… me. During a typical day spent meeting new clients, struggling with the Indonesian language, working with the DINARI staff, learning a new culture and trying new foods, sometimes it feels good to find a few minutes to spend time doing something familiar.  

From my travels in that past and my last few weeks here in Indonesia, I have found that the following list of things really helps to make me feel balanced (in no particular order): 

1.  Reading/Music/Email: These are the obvious ones, so I’ll get them out of the way. Nonetheless, when you can’t understand the language and spend much of your day trying to learn on the fly, it feels incredible to let my brain loose. So far the Lonely Planet guides for Bangkok and Bali, Eat, Pray, Love (source of future blog), Confessions of an Economic Hit Man, Yunus’ Banker to the Poor have been wonderful friends. As has my rediscovery of Oregon’s own Everclear, especially “Santa Monica” and “AM Radio”.  And with email, there’s nothing better than coming back to the Gmail after a few days away and seeing a bunch of updates from friends, even if the only friends who wrote are the ones offering Viagra at a once in a lifetime price. 

2.  Junk Food: I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the occasional cookie/wafer/chocolate randomness binge.  I have literally cried tears of happiness upon discovering Oreo’s in a local market.  

3.  Sports: Thankfully so far in Bali, I’ve been able to play ping-pong, volleyball, badminton, a game of hoops, and even raced a nine year old (results still under protest).  Getting out there and getting the heart rate up with a little friendly competition is not only social, but helps wear off the fried banana breakfast. 

4.  Playing with Kids: The nice part about being a Kiva Fellow is that you meet a bunch of clients that often have their little sons and daughters running about.  For the most part, playing with children takes no knowledge of the Indonesian language, which fits my skill set perfectly. Whether it’s a quick game of tag or figuring out who can make the weirdest face, playing with the Balinese children has been a blast. 

So that’s my list… pretty generic, I admit. My question to any who want to participate is: When travelling or acclimating to some place new, what makes you feel balanced? What did I miss? Feel free to add any updates to whatever I’ve listed including books, music or your secret addiction to powdered milk.  

Cheers from Bali,  

GC

Entry Filed under: Dian Bhuana Lestari Foundation (Dinari), Indonesia, KF5 (Kiva Fellows 5th Class). Tags: , , .

8 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Jan & John, KivaFriends  |  20 June 2008 at 21:19

    Wonderful sharing, thanx

    I find when travelling – to sit in the evening and look up at the night sky makes me remember that we are all of us looking up at that same sky. Tied together with family at home and friends in even stranger countries. All the same yet each one different.

    jan

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  • 2. Hendra  |  21 June 2008 at 18:23

    I think your list has pretty much cover all. I would add that for me staying up late occasionally will help, just being alone awake with mind wandering here and there while the world sleeps…

    You may want to add the sports part, in Bali you can do surfing and other beach/sea activities.

    Cheers,
    Hendra

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  • 3. lucygent  |  22 June 2008 at 19:37

    I laughed pretty hard when you mentioned Eat, Pray, Love and how it’ll be a source of a future blog. Very funny. I’m heading out to Cameroon on Tuesday and I’m planning on bringing a stock of books, some on microfinance but then some junky novels just to let my brain be a couch potato. I think reading is the best and healthiest way for me to relax when internet connections are slow.

    Good to hear from you!!
    lucy

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  • 4. normamo33  |  23 June 2008 at 11:50

    nice post & a good one for the group…am sure you will find some more things that fit in here unexpectedly:) take care-nora

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  • 5. Xanthi  |  24 June 2008 at 10:26

    Loving the blogs Gary! I now have 2 weeks to go before I fly out of Sydney and your blog got me thinking as I set aside potential items to take with me to Vietnam. Consequently I think I may sneak a pair of high heels into my luggage!

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  • 6. Michael Batchelder  |  29 June 2008 at 09:01

    Hey it is you…just found out how to enlarge your pic. What in the heck are you doing on the other side of the earth. We got some major problems here in America and I could use you here in Arizona for a vote.

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  • 7. Dan Zuckerman  |  30 June 2008 at 10:17

    Gary, I always look forward to reading your blogs and I have to say that for me books are my favorite method of relaxation. I’m reading a book now called The Discoverers, part of which is about early attempts at exploring the unknown realms of Asia and the New World. Really puts things in perspective for me when I think I’m having it rough here in Central Asia. Reading about the stuff that earlier travellers have gone through just puts you in awe of what people can accomplish and inspires me to be more adventurous in my own travels.

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  • 8. garycoover  |  10 July 2008 at 02:52

    Thanks to everyone for the wonderful suggestions. Since writing this and reading your comments, I have not only taken a little more time to enjoy the stars, stay up late with my thoughts, but also added a Sunday routine that has been a fantastic addition.

    Sunday has become my day to head to the beach, surf, lay in the sun, read, listen to music, eat some ice creams and just enjoy the wonders of Bali. I’ve found that there’s nothing that makes me feel more at peace than paddling out behind the waves as the sun is setting… INCREDIBLE.

    Dan & Lucy: Keep the book suggestions coming, and keep adding to your blogs as they’re great to read.

    Xanthi: keep me posted on how those high heels work out for you. Any chance to use them yet?

    Michael: It’s been forever! Send me an email at Gary.Coover@fellows.kiva.org so that we can get in touch.

    Thanks again for all the great suggestions,

    GC

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